By Ron Cune由Ron cune

In the Western world and especially in the Netherlands, open exchanges of view and fair discussions are very common. 在西方世界，特别是在荷兰，开放交流的看法和公平的讨论是非常普遍。 This sort of verbal interaction has a positive positively interpreted connotation. 这种口语互动具有积极正面的诠释内涵。 It is a proof the discussion partner is interested in you and your opinions. 这是一个证明的讨论，有兴趣的合作伙伴是在您和您的意见。

How different this is in the Chinese society.如何不同，这是在中国社会。 Any confrontation directly showing disagreement or questioning the things said, will be interpreted as if you have second thoughts about the other’s personal experience or worse, about the person himself.任何对抗，直接显示异议或质疑的事情说，将被解释为如果您有第二个思考其他的个人经验，或者更糟的是，关于该人本人。 Chinese counterparts feel attacked by receiving comments, this is a cultural issue.中国同行感到袭击接收的意见，这是一个文化的问题。 The term constructive criticism is therefore not very well known in China.任期建设性的批评，因此不十分清楚在中国。

So, introducing any contradicting opinion is a sensitive matter in China.因此，引进任何矛盾的意见，是一个敏感的问题在中国。 Moment and situation are highly important factors that influence the outcome of your –probably- well meant remarks.时刻，形势是非常重要的影响因素的结果，你大概井的意思的话。 When the expected result of a remark is uncertain or the timing isn’t perfect, we strongly advise to wait with providing feedback.当预期的结果，这句话是不确定的或时机并不完美，我们强烈建议等待与提供反馈。

Whenever the situation is urgent and immediate action and criticism is unavoidable, some golden rules can help making the best out of the situation.每当情况是紧急并立即采取行动，并批评是不可避免的，一些金科玉律可以帮助决策最佳的情况。
- Realize your position towards your Chinese partner. -实现你的立场对您的中方合作伙伴。 In China seniority is valued more important than in the Western culture.在中国的年资是价值更重要，比在西方文化。 A junior party seldom provides any comments at all.初中党的很少提供任何意见，在所有。
- Try to discuss any sensitive matters privately and avoid bringing comments during a meeting or when third parties are around. -尝试讨论任何敏感问题私下和评论，以免给在某次会议或会议时，第三次缔约方左右。
- Highlight the improvement following out of your remarks and also stress the personal advantages for the person related. -突出了以下改进对您的言论，同时强调个人的优势，为有关人士。
- Most important of all: smile when providing constructive critics. -最重要的是：微笑时，提供建设性的批评。 A nice smile always works. 1尼斯的笑容始终工程。

Even when following these instructions it’s to be expected people will feel offended.即使按照这些指示，它的可以预期的人会觉得冒犯。 A common reaction is denying responsibility or influence.一个共同的反应是否定的责任，或影响。 The ‘circumstances’ are outside the range of the person abilities. '情况'范围以外的人的能力。 Just go along this line of argumentation.刚才走这条路线的论证。 Do not pretend these were all personal ideas, but try to find a connection with the (company’s) culture, laws, profit margins and topics that suit the situation.不假装这些都是个人的想法，但尝试找到一个结合（公司的）文化，法律，利润率和主题相适应的情况。

Although it may seem as walking on a thin line, a well considered pragmatic mentality in the Chinese society will get you much further than the Dutch no-nonsense attitude.尽管它可能似乎走在一个薄线，以及考虑到务实的心态，在中国社会将让您进一步比荷兰语没有废话的态度。

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