说谎
由亚历山大· de Nereee
缺点我，本身兴趣的行业，是我遇到很多在我的每日工作。 相反对普遍相信它非常不是做说谎的律师。 虽然我必须承认律师没有容易地一般被说服分开以信息，更不用说真相，我喜欢认为什么我们做如熟练编辑信息适合真相的某一版本。 没有害处由于。 那是什么律师被支付做。
但为了编辑信息，您将必须首先得到信息。 并且那不是一样容易，象它也许听起来。 首先有牌子它难得到任何相关信息客户的疼的感觉的过滤器。 在它强相信正确性，并且公正它本身位置，客户过滤掉看来在它的缺点的任何事。
“他们未曾抱怨我们的产品的质量，并且现在，在青斑外面，他们想要他们的金钱后面并且要求损伤! 那是不合情理的”。 本身 这是可能法律上是相关的，但没有，如果的一个好观点 客户 `未曾抱怨’ `未曾抱怨除了40电子邮件的手段我选择不回复对并且选择不给我的律师’。 你可能想象得到与这40电子邮件面对在去在大约以后律师的喜悦多么不合情理这个整体情况是为他的客户。
甚而更加困难的然后得到的信息从您自己的客户，获得您从您的客户的柜台part.需要的信息。 In a recent case the other party was so stubborn in its unwillingness to give any information, that we had to ask the court in the Netherlands to order them to give it up.
Thankfully no e-mails ruining my case surfaced and the judge was, at least temporarily, impressed with the fact that two people had flown from Hong Kong for a hearing of one hour. And with me, she was suspicious of the fact that somebody could be so reluctant to give information. They have something to hide…. So as always, I am wondering what they are not telling me.
Alexander de Nerée, De Neree Advocates
February 14th, 2008 at 6:48 am
Too true. As a headhunter I am probably lied to only slightly less than a police officer and only slighlty more than family doctor.
I find the omission of facts especially challenging when it comes (or doesn’t as the case may be) from my clients. In my role it is important to pre-handle as much as possible and when things come up at the 11th hour this becomes quite difficult.
February 15th, 2008 at 12:31 pm
I speak on the side of the “unseen customer” whom we’ve been complaining about above: I see a lot of misunderstanding can possibly arise when expectations are not deliberately asked for nor clearly defined from the beginning. Likewise when the benefit of your services has not been clearly stated, there is little motivation for anyone to be cooperative.
As a professional person providing a professional service, it is frequently an expectation of the paying customer that the lawyers and recruiters of the world step up and ask the right questions to make sure the benefit of their service is clear, and that everyone’s expectations have been clearly stated. Face it, some folks aren’t good communicators, or don’t know any better.
An unspoken expectation: You are being paid to be the better communicator. After all, why would someone come to you otherwise? If the benefit of your service is not clear from the beginning, then quite simply, there is no motivation in further discussion nor in volunteering all the information that would be helpful to you. Offer the horse a carrot so he will follow you.
If you haven’t fulfilled the superior communication role, then, yes, of course there will appear to be what you perceive to be lying - when in fact its just a mere instance of the lawyers and recruiters not asking enough questions.
Granted there are folks who are outright deceptive - up to you to decide whether you wish to deal with them. As you say, this is a drawback to your profession.
March 2nd, 2008 at 2:54 am
Thanks Alexander for this insight, although I’m somewhat puzzled though as to why you would choose to tag this opinion to business with China. My own experience is that your observation is universal and has no special significance to China or the Chinese. We can observe similar behaviors in any culture. Facts are an essential currency of all business. Consumers of fact must be careful to distinguish fact from non-fact. The amount of effort devoted to that process depends on the value placed on the use of facts and how that use will impact a particular business operation. Authentication (verification, confirmation) is crucial for high value transactions. At Horizon Data we use triangulation as a routine means of distinguishing fact from non-fact. Of course, the cost is higher, but that is what clients expect if they want and need facts for their business; whatever that busines may be.